SEE

"If we don't recognise and understand the arrogance (anger, spitefulness etc) in ourselves, we can't accurately see arrogance (anger, spitefulness etc) in others."  "Lord, how much of this is me seeing my unprocessed self (projection) in them?" is a good question to ask ourselves. And... "How much of this is about me?  How much of this is actually about them?" are useful too.

Explore all your emotions, find out what is in you.
SEE what is in your intended spouse, because you have discovered honestly what is in you.
You will not forever remain ignorant about your beloved.
Ignorance is NOT bliss when you discover the darker sides of your spouse.

(We all have our darker side.)  
If ye are prepared, ye need not fear.
If the revelation of his/her darker side is sobering - consult with someone wise.
Better to break off an engagement than a marriage.

Fortunately the same holds true for the lighter and lovelier sides of ourselves.
"If we don't know about the humility (peacefulness, lovingness etc) in ourselves, we can't see humility (peacefulness, lovingness etc) in others."

Explore all these emotions in yourself as well.
SEE what in in your intended spouse, because you have discovered honestly what is in you.
You will be blessed to discover gentle and Christian virtues in your spouse.
If you are prepared you can rejoice daily.
If the revelation of his/her lovelier side is intimidating or challenging to you, consult with someone wise.
You might saboutage your relationship and lose it if you do not learn to appreciate and cherish the peacefulness and loveliness within yourself and others.

YOU WILL LEARN about the light and the dark of us all sometime on your journey through life and the hereafter.
Don't stay wrong long.
Learn your lessons well - the sooner the more successful your life and living will be.
Enhance your Emotional IQ.

Bind... Blind...

"The ties that bind can be the ties that blind."
"Monster"

Looking Back

"Looking back in the past is not going to change (deter me in) the future."
John Clark - Dr Phil Show guest

Secrets

"You can't keep a secret about yourself and live a true life."
From the Judy-recommended movie "Little Secrets"

"How Expensive..."

"How expensive will this person be as a spouse?"

Are they financially expensive? Do they like to spend money...
Are they emotionally expensive? Do they need a lot of soothing, reassuring, counselling...
Are they spiritually expensive? Are they a spiritual person...
Are they intellectualy expensive? Will this relationship require a lot of intellectual explanations...
Are they vocationally expensive? Where are they in their career planning...
Are they physically expensive? Do they have unhealthy physical habits: eating, not exercising...
Are they musically expensive? How do our tastes in music compare...
Are they entertain-fully expensive? What sort of entertainment do they like...

How will they manage the (financial, emotional, spiritual and other) hard times that no doubt will come in the course of our lives together?

How expensive am I in these, and other ways, as a potential spouse?