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"If we don't know about the arrogance (anger, spitefulness etc) in ourselves, we can't see arrogance (anger, spitefulness etc) in others."

Explore all your emotions, find out what is in you.
SEE what is in your intended spouse, because you have discovered honestly what is in you.
You will not forever remain ignorant about your beloved.
Ignorance is NOT bliss when you discover the darker sides of your spouse.
If ye are prepared, ye need not fear.
If the revelation of his/her darker side is sobering - consult with someone wise.
Better to break off an engagement than a marriage.

Fortunately the same holds true for the lighter and lovelier sides of ourselves.
"If we don't know about the humility (peacefulness, lovingness etc) in ourselves, we can't see humility (peacefulness, lovingness etc) in others."

Explore all these emotions in yourself as well.
SEE what in in your intended spouse, because you have discovered honestly what is in you.
You will be blessed to discover these gentle and Christian virtues in your spouse.
If you are prepared you can rejoice daily.
If the revelation of his/her lovelier side is intimidating or challenging to you, consult with someone wise.
You might saboutage your relationship and lose it if you do not learn to appreciate and cherish the peacefulness and lovliness of yourself and others.

YOU WILL LEARN about the light and the dark of us all sometime on your journey through life and the hereafter.
Don't stay wrong long.
Learn your lessons well - the sooner the more successful your life and living will be.
Enhance your Emotional IQ.